Friday, April 8, 2011

You're stronger than you seem ...

"You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we're apart ... I'll always be with you." 
Christopher Robin to Winnie the Pooh

A friend from Widowed Village posted this clip on her blog today and it really struck a chord with me. It's been a very long time since I read Winnie the Pooh, but I can hear me in Pooh's questions and Vern replying as Christopher did.

I've often resented it when people told me how strong I was. I sure didn't feel strong during Vern's cancer battle. I just did whatever I had to do to make sure he got the care he needed and knew how very much he was loved. And I don't feel strong now either. I'm just doing what I have to do to honor Vern's memory.  This little video clip helped me a lot and I will keep that quote close to my heart.

 "I'll always be with you."  Yes ... he will be ... he is.


Sarah said...

Dianne: I love your posts. You open your heart to us. You share your innermost feelings.

There, but for the Grace of God, goes I.....

Hugs to you.

Anonymous said...

That's very dear, Dianne. Thank you! --Craig

janis said...

Thank you for sharing this Dianne. It can touch many in more than one way. Ole Christopher Robbins was a clever young soul wasn't he? I too haven't read Winnie the Pooh for many years. Sometimes the strongest thing can come from something so simple, like a children's book.
I needed to hear Christopher say this as well.

jaloysisus said...

I love that part about "I'll always be with you." Gwen used to say "always and forever." At the time it was just something people in love say to each other. Who knew it would mean so much more now? Thanks for another of your exquisite posts, Dianne. You're so strong:-)

Barbara said...

Dianne, that was a beautiful post, how true. But you know, you are getting stronger every day and you have Vern's words to help you along.. You have your friends in WV who all know exactly how you feel AND we can reassure you that it all takes time. I now find that I am trying to find ME in life. For so long my Life was caring for Mark. So what do we do.. we need to rediscover ourselves, and that is not as easy as it sounds. baby steps.. holding hands we will move forward.. this I am sure of my dear friend. We have both been through alot.. it takes time.. hugs

rebelmom said...

Just came across your blog recently, and then followed links to your journal on CaringBridge.
You and your Vern seemed blessed to have shared your life and journey together as true partners and each others best friend, and it was a gift to read about the very evident love you shared as you fought MM.
I have to say that the reason I decided to comment on *this* particular blog entry is because I absolutely LOVE that "Winnie the Pooh" quote, and I have it in my Facebook info!! It has always represented to me the true gift we give to the people we love -- the strong faith in the other person, and the promise that this faith, and the love we feel are everlasting -- in life, in heart, and in spirit -- for always!
(And as an odd coincidence, my husband and I share your anniversary date --- August 23rd --- too.)

Jackie said...

Diane, Thank You for share thing with every one. My sister-in-law died of cancer and she never told us until they Drs. told us two days before she passed. I miss her voice and love we shared. I know how much you loved Vern and he was a great person to know. Diane, I'm not in your shoes yet and after read your blogs it starts to make you think when and how to hansle things when my husband leaves me. Like you said. You was with parent short time and longer with Vern. And I'm the same way. You will always be my friend. Love You Jackie

Anonymous said...

That was so endearing. Thank you for sharing the video. Every day you honor Vern's memory by thinking of him, talking about him, and talking to him. I got thinking the other day about something that has been repeated over and over in the last few years. "Everything a person says on the internet is there forever"....maybe....just maybe...Vern can not only feel what you feel but actually be read it.
If he left his mark on a simple former student, I can't even fathom the impact of his love for you, had on you. The loss is overwhelming but knowing he is always there and will waiting for you when it is you time to go hopefully will give you a little solace.You still have so much life to live and he is there living it with you.


Michael said...

I know what you mean about people thinking you were/are strong. People would say to me "You're a saint for doing this." NO I'M NOT! I'm doing what any caring, loving, human being would do for someone else.

And when it came to "post" Melody...I wasn't strong...I was doing what any human being HAS TO DO...which is continue on cuz life doesn't stop when you have to grieve. It just keeps on moving. Some get left behind.

Keep on pluggin' away Dianne. There is life after just takes a bit to get there.