Monday, July 11, 2016

On being BRAVE ...

I attended BRAVE Girl Symposium last week and it was amazing. Fabulous speakers sharing such incredible messages. Truths revealed. Intentions identified. Important conversations for this scary world we're living in. Meeting people I had only known on-line. So much love and sistering in one place. Those three days filled my soul with love.

I was amazed at the number of Symposium attendees who came alone, not knowing anyone else, not really knowing anything about Brave Girls. Some came just because they receive the Daily Truth emails, some because they've taken a class in Brave Girl University, some because they're fans of one of the speakers. I was able to meet several of these new BRAVE Girls - a couple of them were widowed and I was able to share important widowed resource information with them. And one lovely gal approached me in the hallway after the Soul Restoration Certified Instructors were asked to come on stage. She wanted to know when and where I would be holding my Soul Restoration Retreats because she had noticed me and my 'energy'. Wow - that really made my day.

One of the group art projects was a paint stick quilt. Each attendee was given two paint sticks to write their "She Did It Anyway" words which were glued onto a wall. Really powerful to read all of the words. I was late turning my sticks in, so I think mine are mixed in with those on the floor.

I'll share one of mine with you: "She felt invisible, but she walked into the room with a smile anyway."  That may surprise some who know me - or who know of me - but I really struggle with this and felt it much of Symposium. Never feel quite 'enough' ... even in the midst of lovely old and new friends. I didn't get a photo opp with Melody or Kathy or any of the speakers or 'high profile Brave Girls' and was only asked to be in a couple of group photos. So this is me being BRAVE and speaking my truth for those other gals who were there and felt the same. I'm rather sure I'm not the only one and sometimes just knowing that is enough to help us work on those feelings.

My Symposium experience was tempered by a deep sadness in my heart. Just before leaving for Boise I received word that a dear friend was nearing the end of her cancer battle. Robbie has set such a loving example of kindness and bravery through all of her life's struggles. I debated whether to cancel going to Symposium and instead fly up to Reno that day to see her. But after many discussions and lots of prayer, I decided to head to Boise to fill my empty cup so I would be better able to lovingly say goodbye to my sweet friend. I left Boise for Reno early Saturday morning and returned home Sunday evening. That short time with Robbie was hard. So many triggers taking me back to my time with Vern in hospice. But I am so very grateful I was able to say goodbye, tell her how much she means to me and reassure her that I will be there to support her husband through the coming hard months. Robbie is the BRAVEST woman I know.

Note:  Please see that I've placed links in this blog post that will take you to registering for next year's Symposium, signing up for the Daily Truth emails, checking out Brave Girl University, seeing the list of Certified Instructors and linking to my 'under construction' website about the Soul Restoration Retreat I've scheduled. Some of these are affiliated links for me.


Anonymous said...

Hi, Dianne -- I am saddened to know of your heartache this week about your friend, Robbie. My heart goes out to you and to all those who love her...and of course to Robbie as she makes this journey.

And I am one of the very surprised people to know that you sometimes wonder about your place or your feeling that you might not be 'enough'. I guess we ALL have those misgivings sometimes...even me. The awesome thing is to keep showing up anyway, right?

By the way...I have ALL of the paint sticks in my possession, and the brick wall just showed up here at the Clubhouse. WE will be finishing the 'quilt' and adding every single one of the sticks that was turned in. Then we will be adding marine varnish and turning it into a permanent art installation to commemorate every She Did It Anyway declaration of Symposium 2016!! Yours will be there!! XOXOXOX kathy

The Victorian Gypsy said...

I was so happy to be able to meet you in person at Symposium. We have walked the same path for several years now. And I am sure we will continue to be Brave Girl friends. Looking forward to seeing info about your retreats and classes.

A Myeloma Widow's Journey said...

Yes, Kathy ... I do intend to keep showing up. There was so much really good stuff that happened at Symposium. Can't wait for the videos or recordings or whatever that may come to reinforce my notes and recollections from the fabulous speakers' presentations. It was powerful. I loved Yve and I'm so happy she'll be returning next year. And I feel honored to have been present for that really important conversation that took place during Glennon's Q&A. Wow. Just wow. I've already registered for next year's Symposium and perhaps will invest in a selfie stick to make it easier to snag some photos with me in them. I love you Brave Girls <3

A Myeloma Widow's Journey said...

Sandi - I owe you a debt of gratitude for introducing me to Brave Girls through your blog. What a difference it has made in my life. And I loved finally meeting you in person. I do hope our paths cross again.

My web site address is:
Right now it just has a photo from the deck of the beach house I've rented for my first retreat, along with my email address for those interested. I'm working on it this week and hope to make some progress adding all of the stuff I want to include in it. In addition to my Brave Girl stuff, it will also include links and articles for widows - and I'm thinking also some inspiration for us older gals.

Unknown said...

Hi Dianne: We met outside during the symposium when I was sitting alone eating a meal, and you asked to join me. We quickly found out we had a friend in common which led us to discussing our journey as widow's - your work with Soaring Spirits Widowed Village, and mine with Modern Widow's Club. God brought us together in one of those amazing synchronicities, as both "Brave Girls" and widows. If you find a location closer to the west coast that has a "vibe" like the house in Carolina, I would like to attend your Soul Restoration retreat. Sending much love as you continue to blossom in love and light. ~ Lisa in Washington State.

Unknown said...

Dianne, Forgot to add my thoughts and prayers of healing during another sad time for you. Painful memories from the past do creep in when we have lost our husband's to that awful Cancer then watch someone else we love go through a similar journey. Hugs.

And We Sailed On said...

Dianne I love you so much and I love the work that you do and are doing. You are so awesome to be around! Keep doing it anyway awesome brave girl! xoxo

Suz said...

Thinking of you, Dianne. I feel like you are in my "Widow Class" from old days at Widowed Village. It got a lot of us through those initial hard times. The person who liked your "energy" is right on! You have good, honest, clean "juju." Even from the viewpoint of online!

just g said...

I have been wanting to read your blog post about the love notes you gave for your anniversary. What a beautiful act of love and what a beautiful way to honor the love you shared with your beloved Vern.
You are such an inspiration to me. You are one of the strongest souls I know.
I also wanted to tell you that I frequently feel invisible in a group of Brave Girls.It isn't in a mean or left out way, it's just how I feel sometimes.
I felt that way at camp, and I felt that way at training.
I have come to be at peace with it. I think sometimes it is hard to reflect deeply inward and be bubbly and outgoing at the same time.
Keep doing the amazing things you do, you are changing the world with your love. <3